Saturday, 10 October 2009

true friendship

I have always trotted out the same phrase that I make friends easier with men than women but the last two weekends have opened my eyes up to that not quite being the case. I think on one level men seem to get me more quickly than the majority of women I meet and socially it has always been easier to be in a male dominated environment than female - ironic given that I went to an all girls school. But I now realise that although I may not have hordes of female friends and be the Girl Most Other Girls Want To Be Friends With, the female friends I do have are very special and certainly without them the last year would have been a lot tougher. My midweek glasses of wine with Ros punctuate the long working week perfectly and we seem to be able to cover a myriad of topics every time. A lunch with Bella was funny and chat filled. And I am lucky enough that the photography club has thrown up not just people with the same hobby but a new friend who is as unpc and coarse as me - and brilliant at producing those communications which result in a coffee down the nose moment at work. Then a brunch with Hannah who I havent worked with for nearly two years but who is always so pleased to see me and me her. Next month should see a gathering of the Beccy High Crew - the five of us covering every statistic for our generation - divorces, marriages, single parenthood, high fliers, cruisers (me!). But no matter the interval between meets, we revert back to the five school girls messing about in the common room.

I am lucky to have some very good girl friends. Not forgetting my best friend.....












3 comments:

  1. Its funny, both as in odd and ha-ha, how we perceive ourselves. It is often at odds to how others do and you are no exception.
    I would have said you are often surrounded by friends / aquaintences of a mixed gender -so it is amusing to read your post as I had no idea you historically have found men easier to bond with. I would guess it is more that you (and I) are simply females that do not need to travel in packs. now, they can be scary.

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  2. Sounds just like me! I thought men friends were easier to be with, but as I'm getting older, I'm finding that women aren't all like the 16 year olds I was bullied by at school - some of them are actually quite nice! Like you for instance - hehehe :)

    As Bellastellagirl says, women in packs....{{shudder}} x

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  3. Ah shucks!

    Seems I have picked up your wit and tendency to be friends with men over women too!

    xxx

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